Jealousy ; MAKE us MATI

Jealousy is always born with love, but does not always die with it...

Salam :)

Hey girls and boys. Sambil melayan lagu Kisah Hati from Alyah, belle teringat satu scene hebat pagi tadi. Well, biase lah as remaja yang menjalani kegiatan yang sihat, belle dan kazen seangkatan keluar jalan.jalan di danga bay,Johor. Kitorang singgah untuk mengisi perut di Secret Recipe. As a normal human being, I love to observe people. Ade pasangan couple had their lunch betul.betul depan belle. Im just observing them. One moment, sang buayafriend tiba.tiba jawab call and I have no idea dari siapa. Then, after dah bla.bla.bla cakap kat tepon, si gulafriend pun asked him,

" Sape tu ? "
* sambil menghirup orea milkshake *
" Kawan. "
* jawab sang buayafriend selamba dan curi minum oreo milkshake milik gulafriend dia.
" Tipu! "
* nada agak keras, pelan tapi masih kedengaran di gegendang telinga belle.
" Buat apa nak tipu, tak dapat duit pun "
* again, slumber je * HEHE.
" Dah la, tak abis.abis dengan perempuan lain. I nak balik ! "
* si gulafriend terus bangun dan blah camtu je*

Sang buayafriend terpinga.pinga dan mata kami bertembung. Auch. KANTOI belle dok usha diorang. belle buat.buat minum plain water kat atas meja tu. Dari gaya sang buayafriend, belle agak dalam hati dia mesti jerit, ' Ni sape nak bayar ni!! ' HAHAHA. Pernah korang ternampak atau mengalami sendiri kejadian seperti kejadian di atas ? Pernah @ tak pernah ? Actually, what is the main factor that made the gulafriend's angry with her buayafriend ? Simple as gula.gula. Itu semua adalah sebab factor cemburu. CEMBURU ? JEALOUSY ? Yes. Tipu lah korang tak pernah rase cemburu. Well, jealousy is an important element in a relationship tapi janganlah over. Seperti kejadian di atas, dua.dua bersalah. I tau la u all, the gentlemen memang COOL je 24-7. Selamba jer dalam segala hal but u ALSO should understand a heart that easily broken as girl’s heart. And for the girls, korang should siasat first, don’t be too jealousy or your partner will run away from your life. Trust me sayangs. And now, belle ada beberapa cara to overcome jealousy. Maybe not 100 percent berkesan but to less the jelousy ; yes, maybe its work. InsyaAllah.

Deal with reality

Well, u should focus on what is really happening. Maybe sometimes our partner ada sebab utama untuk berlaku curang. Atau dia mungkin sudah bosan dengan kita. So we should face the reality. I know its really hurt and hard but we should face the truth. Lagipun u all, girls and boys smua nyer bijak.bijak kan ? So, use your intelligent to deal with it. Dont follow your heart, think wisely. Korang tak bodoh nak bunuh diri sebab cinta je an ?

“To overcome jealousy, just see how the jealousy came into your system, just analyze the sequence of thoughts and emotions in your system and then undo it by reasoning out the whole process with your intelligence.”
– Swamiji Nithyananda

Respect yourself/Love yourself

Don’t think about the bull s*** lelaki or girl tu. Think about yourself. Choose to focus on yourself, instead of the person you are jealous of. Sometimes, orang yang kuat cemburu ni dia ada low self-esteem. Terasa diri banyak kekurangan sedangkan pasangan dia tak pernah rasa macam tu. So, please don’t too over thinking about your look or personality. Try to respect and love yourself as who u are.

“If you don’t fully accept and love yourself as you are, you could be more prone to comparing yourself to others as a way of artificially boosting your feeling of self-worth.” — Steve Pavlina

Stop comparing

Haven’t heard a quote from Nithyananda ? She said, “Comparison is the seed and jealousy is the fruit!” So, ape maksudnya ? It means comparison leads to jealousy. Contohnya, “ Kawan baik sayang tu cantik lah. Mesti sayang suka tengok dia kan ? “ And tak pasal.pasal timbul perasaan cemburu sedangkan tak ada apa.apa yang berlaku pun. So be careful people. Kalau partner korang or korang sendiri dah mula membanding.bandingkan so ingatlah yang ia boleh menyebabkan seseorang itu menjadi sangat kuat cemburu. Start by appreciating the differences. See the benefits of you uniqueness.

Please, trust yourself ; trust your partner ; trust Allah